Hi everyone! Our third Parent Scream is starting RIGHT NOW. Join us to vent, cry, yell, scream… whatever you need. IMO, the world basically is falling apart, and I think we all need to connect with others, commiserate and let off some steam.
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My kids are already acting bored after two weeks of summer activities, a bunch of old ass white men rule the society I live in (not limited to but including the goddamn president! Jesus take the wheel he’s acting like such a sweet grandpa! Not what we need!), the planet is still going to be overheating despite anyone’s politics about it...oh yeah, and the pandemic is still a thing SCREAM.
My city desperately needs rain but also the fires we’ve had this year and a couple years ago mean that any time it rains more than a little, half the town is on a flash flood warning. Very cool to be getting emergency alerts all the time as well as all the other terrible news!
Not only is everything in the whole world a garbage fire, but I have 10 of my in-laws coming to visit at the same time in July, for THREE WEEKS, and they are flying in and there will be loud cousins and it is sparking my COVID/baby sleep/introvert anxieties all at the same time. I may run off into the woods!
What is everyone doing for their mental health right now? I am taking lots of walks, exercising when I can, and reading some books on successful social movements so as to remind myself that positive change DOES happen, it's just often really slow. Would love to hear what other people are doing to survive this mess.
Daddy with a wonderful 3 year old here - we were able to perfectly potty train her about 9 months ago but all of a sudden she’s now having accidents constantly. Doc said it’s not UTI… we’re really concerned and totally dismayed - feel really bad for her since she obviously doesn’t understand either!
I just had another miscarriage (my fifth, three before I had my daughter and two after), which means I need to start IVF again, I guess while it's still legal? And to add insult to injury, I had to cancel a trip to South Africa for a conference because of the treatment, so instead of going on a free trip with a safari, I am going to single parent for two weeks while going through treatment while my husband goes without me.
Husband has Covid after he was away. And we have an intense family weekend coming up. All this I have to continue to do on my own!. Plus I’m having neck and back spasms for like 3 weeks. Plus the kid has been so very difficult lately. Fighting me on literally everything.
Everything sucks and my toddler is in a whine for everything phase which is my kryptonite. I just want to run away to a spa and ignore everything for a month.
Today is our 10th wedding anniversary. We’re both working parents with a 2.5 year old and 6 month old, so basically zero time to ourselves. We had very nice dinner reservations out that I was SO excited for, but our babysitter forgot and we couldn’t find a backup. I shed a few “why us” tears, rallied out of my great outfit/jewelry into nice pajamas, and we ordered some good food to be delivered. Only one of the meals arrived and the restaurant forgot the other. Happy effing anniversary 😭. SCREAM!!!
Ugh I’ve had low level anxiety just constantly hanging out with me with no specific cause except for EVERYTHING FEELS LIKE ITS FALLING APART. I’m navigating big transitions with my 4yo and investigating sensory challenges and it feels like whenever I’m not my very best parenting self, he falls apart, and I cannot be my very best parenting self with almost zero breaks! I have a moms retreat planned next week (my first trip away) that I’m so excited for but terrified of it getting cancelled due to COVID. We’re at my parents cabin now for the holiday weekend where everyone is vaxxed and tested negative, but then my mom just invited up 4 extended family members! I want to run away in fear of exposure, but I’m feeling guilty that I haven’t seen my 92yo grandpa in a year. AAAAHHHHH WHY IS IT ALL SO HARD
We finally got covid—the kids are 5, 3, and 11 weeks. The primary symptom is SHEER CRANKINESS, and at first I thought at least that wouldn’t send any of us to the hospital…and then one kid slammed her sister’s thumb in the door jamb.
They are highly energetic but the worst possible version of themselves. Please give me advice for activities to keep them occupied and soothing things for myself that aren’t ice cream. Whiskey won’t crash my immune system, right??
Just when I thought there couldn’t be anything else to scream about, SCOTUS challenged that. I’m so angry and disappointed in so many people. I’m angry about my body not functioning the way it should and being so sick. I’m heartbroken that my kid is immensely struggling and people see his behavioral challenges as “manipulation.” I’m exhausted in every sense of the word.
But I love seeing the butterflies and bees in abundance this year. I love my friends more than life. I’m thankful for financial security, vegan ice cream, my trusty old minivan, dogs, good schools for my kids, iced decaf coffee, pride and pro-choice matches, guided meditations, sleep stories, and warm weather. If I don’t focus on these things (and more!), I’d be lying in a puddle of tears and despair.
If you’re reading this: You are doing a good job, friend.
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH $#($*%)(*&$&. Just starting us off. Hello everybody!
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh! Yet another quarantine from daycare and no child care for 10 days! UGH.
Arggghhhhhhhhhhhhhh teenagers!
YET ANOTHER holiday weekend plan has fallen apart thanks to extended family COVID drama. I'm so fucking sick of it. AGHHHHHHHH
My kids are already acting bored after two weeks of summer activities, a bunch of old ass white men rule the society I live in (not limited to but including the goddamn president! Jesus take the wheel he’s acting like such a sweet grandpa! Not what we need!), the planet is still going to be overheating despite anyone’s politics about it...oh yeah, and the pandemic is still a thing SCREAM.
I am potty training 2 toddlers doing the Oh Crap thing (nothing else we've tried has worked) starting on Monday. Any words of wisdom or advice?
My city desperately needs rain but also the fires we’ve had this year and a couple years ago mean that any time it rains more than a little, half the town is on a flash flood warning. Very cool to be getting emergency alerts all the time as well as all the other terrible news!
Today I went to a funeral of a three months old baby (SIDS), I cannot say how heartbreaking it was... The nightmare for any parent, right!?!?
Not only is everything in the whole world a garbage fire, but I have 10 of my in-laws coming to visit at the same time in July, for THREE WEEKS, and they are flying in and there will be loud cousins and it is sparking my COVID/baby sleep/introvert anxieties all at the same time. I may run off into the woods!
What is everyone doing for their mental health right now? I am taking lots of walks, exercising when I can, and reading some books on successful social movements so as to remind myself that positive change DOES happen, it's just often really slow. Would love to hear what other people are doing to survive this mess.
Daddy with a wonderful 3 year old here - we were able to perfectly potty train her about 9 months ago but all of a sudden she’s now having accidents constantly. Doc said it’s not UTI… we’re really concerned and totally dismayed - feel really bad for her since she obviously doesn’t understand either!
My son got COVID 5 days before his vaxx appointment!!! AAAAAAGGGGHHHH. We waited so long and sacrificed so much just to crap out at the finish line!
My baby (almost 2 now) is having surgery tomorrow and nobody is wearing masks anymore!!
I just had another miscarriage (my fifth, three before I had my daughter and two after), which means I need to start IVF again, I guess while it's still legal? And to add insult to injury, I had to cancel a trip to South Africa for a conference because of the treatment, so instead of going on a free trip with a safari, I am going to single parent for two weeks while going through treatment while my husband goes without me.
Husband has Covid after he was away. And we have an intense family weekend coming up. All this I have to continue to do on my own!. Plus I’m having neck and back spasms for like 3 weeks. Plus the kid has been so very difficult lately. Fighting me on literally everything.
Everything sucks and my toddler is in a whine for everything phase which is my kryptonite. I just want to run away to a spa and ignore everything for a month.
Today is our 10th wedding anniversary. We’re both working parents with a 2.5 year old and 6 month old, so basically zero time to ourselves. We had very nice dinner reservations out that I was SO excited for, but our babysitter forgot and we couldn’t find a backup. I shed a few “why us” tears, rallied out of my great outfit/jewelry into nice pajamas, and we ordered some good food to be delivered. Only one of the meals arrived and the restaurant forgot the other. Happy effing anniversary 😭. SCREAM!!!
Ugh I’ve had low level anxiety just constantly hanging out with me with no specific cause except for EVERYTHING FEELS LIKE ITS FALLING APART. I’m navigating big transitions with my 4yo and investigating sensory challenges and it feels like whenever I’m not my very best parenting self, he falls apart, and I cannot be my very best parenting self with almost zero breaks! I have a moms retreat planned next week (my first trip away) that I’m so excited for but terrified of it getting cancelled due to COVID. We’re at my parents cabin now for the holiday weekend where everyone is vaxxed and tested negative, but then my mom just invited up 4 extended family members! I want to run away in fear of exposure, but I’m feeling guilty that I haven’t seen my 92yo grandpa in a year. AAAAHHHHH WHY IS IT ALL SO HARD
We finally got covid—the kids are 5, 3, and 11 weeks. The primary symptom is SHEER CRANKINESS, and at first I thought at least that wouldn’t send any of us to the hospital…and then one kid slammed her sister’s thumb in the door jamb.
They are highly energetic but the worst possible version of themselves. Please give me advice for activities to keep them occupied and soothing things for myself that aren’t ice cream. Whiskey won’t crash my immune system, right??
Just when I thought there couldn’t be anything else to scream about, SCOTUS challenged that. I’m so angry and disappointed in so many people. I’m angry about my body not functioning the way it should and being so sick. I’m heartbroken that my kid is immensely struggling and people see his behavioral challenges as “manipulation.” I’m exhausted in every sense of the word.
But I love seeing the butterflies and bees in abundance this year. I love my friends more than life. I’m thankful for financial security, vegan ice cream, my trusty old minivan, dogs, good schools for my kids, iced decaf coffee, pride and pro-choice matches, guided meditations, sleep stories, and warm weather. If I don’t focus on these things (and more!), I’d be lying in a puddle of tears and despair.
If you’re reading this: You are doing a good job, friend.
My FACE itches, my eyes burn, and I am tired
Our baby is waking up at night again, no more than 3 hours straight of sleep, and his cry sounds like 120decibels :(