The point about parents saying no appearing to be a sign of withdrawing love is revelatory to me. It makes so much sense when put that way.
I’m also laughing at the as adults we don’t have audible tantrums. Lol it pains me to admit it but I’ve definitely had a reciprocal meltdown behind closed doors 🤣
One of my previous roles was on a medical team doing screenings with all families in the clinic, there was such deep relief from families with toddlers when we would talk about tantrums. Very helpful reminders about toddlerhood.
Our doctor told us, a few years ago, that teens going through puberty encounter the same kind of turbulence as toddlers—a new stage, new abilities, wanting freedom plus hormones. It leads to tantrum-like behavior sometimes, he said, and we found he was kinda right. So thanks for this piece, it feels applicable to older kids too. lol
A question for the more experienced parents and developmental experts in the “room”: When do tantrums stop happening/happen less? We are in a threenager phase at the moment, but I am starting to be able to explain more to my kiddo and she seems to understand. But not sure if/when this will translate to fewer freak outs….
From what I've observed this "magic shift" happens at different times for each kid BUT for my oldest just after his 4th birthday the temperature changed. Sidenote - JUST in time for our youngest to REALLY start feeling things around her 2nd birthday 😂
I love, love, love toddlers. Would I wish my children were toddlers again? No, thanks! Although I'm finding that I also love tweendom, too, so I'm whatever the parenting equivalent of a roller coaster enthusiast is! Things that were very helpful for me during the time that I had toddlers was exploring the idea of where I could create a yes environment and making lots of time for outdoor play or big muscle movement every day.
The point about parents saying no appearing to be a sign of withdrawing love is revelatory to me. It makes so much sense when put that way.
I’m also laughing at the as adults we don’t have audible tantrums. Lol it pains me to admit it but I’ve definitely had a reciprocal meltdown behind closed doors 🤣
One of my previous roles was on a medical team doing screenings with all families in the clinic, there was such deep relief from families with toddlers when we would talk about tantrums. Very helpful reminders about toddlerhood.
Our doctor told us, a few years ago, that teens going through puberty encounter the same kind of turbulence as toddlers—a new stage, new abilities, wanting freedom plus hormones. It leads to tantrum-like behavior sometimes, he said, and we found he was kinda right. So thanks for this piece, it feels applicable to older kids too. lol
Nothing to add, just that my threenager is in a tantrum-heavy phase right now and 🫠 is my most-used emoji
A question for the more experienced parents and developmental experts in the “room”: When do tantrums stop happening/happen less? We are in a threenager phase at the moment, but I am starting to be able to explain more to my kiddo and she seems to understand. But not sure if/when this will translate to fewer freak outs….
From what I've observed this "magic shift" happens at different times for each kid BUT for my oldest just after his 4th birthday the temperature changed. Sidenote - JUST in time for our youngest to REALLY start feeling things around her 2nd birthday 😂
I love, love, love toddlers. Would I wish my children were toddlers again? No, thanks! Although I'm finding that I also love tweendom, too, so I'm whatever the parenting equivalent of a roller coaster enthusiast is! Things that were very helpful for me during the time that I had toddlers was exploring the idea of where I could create a yes environment and making lots of time for outdoor play or big muscle movement every day.
Great explanation!