Thank you for writing this! I had a question about this: "They found that the more the families followed these kinds of routines, the closer the relationships were between parents and their children, the less parent-child conflict they experienced, and the more self-control their kids exhibited."

How do the researchers know it was the routines themselves that helped, versus being in the kind of family that might value routine and bonding/low conflict/self-control?

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Dec 19, 2020Liked by Melinda Wenner Moyer

Love this! “And you don’t have to fix anything, either. ‘You don't have to go out and buy the toy. You don't have to lecture your child. You don't have to distract your child. You don't have to take away their other presents. Just reflect the feeling back, make it safe.’”

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Dec 23, 2020Liked by Melinda Wenner Moyer

Melinda, thanks so much for this newsletter - your timing could not be better! I'm a therapist and I feel like all my sessions in the last 2 weeks of the year are dealing with challenges with kids and/or aging parents. Glad to have this week's newsletter to share with clients. And for myself as my 8 year old turns from sweet kid to monster.

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