Thanks for sharing this! I love these real-life scenarios. My “rescue” instinct as a mother is strong, so it’s helpful to play out something like this. Such a good reminder that so much of parenting is detective work! The problem that presents is often not the *actual* problem, and it takes so much patience and groundedness and knowing of our individual kid to dig down to that root level.
Oh, and I love that you started by telling her you were willing to come pick her up before you moved into problem-solving mode. I bet that gave her a level of relief and security to be able to be receptive to other suggestions.
Thank you for sharing this, Melinda. And Lauren, your observation is excellent. I noticed that, too, but didn't realize its power until you pointed it out.
Thanks for sharing this! I love these real-life scenarios. My “rescue” instinct as a mother is strong, so it’s helpful to play out something like this. Such a good reminder that so much of parenting is detective work! The problem that presents is often not the *actual* problem, and it takes so much patience and groundedness and knowing of our individual kid to dig down to that root level.
Oh, and I love that you started by telling her you were willing to come pick her up before you moved into problem-solving mode. I bet that gave her a level of relief and security to be able to be receptive to other suggestions.
Good point - I hadn't thought of it that way!
Thank you for sharing this, Melinda. And Lauren, your observation is excellent. I noticed that, too, but didn't realize its power until you pointed it out.