Yesterday we got a message from the planning committee for 20 year HS reunions that they wanted to combine the 20th for the 2005-2007 classes to increase attendance. My mom was saying FB/insta have ruined reunions for the casual acquaintances because we all feel like we know each other. But I don’t really know people I haven’t seen in 15-20 years, I know a curated online presence of them. My HS boyfriend and I sounded like we would be a great match based on our values and musical taste but in reality we clashed terribly. I definitely felt like I wrote a story of him in my head that never matched the reality.
I went to my 20th reunion last year, and it was SO FUN. I am not on social media, so not only was it easy for me to strike up conversations (I didn't already know what everyone was up to), but I felt like a celebrity because to everyone else, I was a novelty!
I’m glad you had a great time! I told my twin sister I would like to go but I just don’t know how it will go! I had a lot of fun a couple weeks ago striking up conversations at the Kamala rally so maybe it depends on my mood! I had fun at the 10th but it wasn’t that well attended so I didn’t see that many people.
Yes! I think it's so humbling and powerful at the same time to say "I don't know" in response to tough questions that our kids ask us and to reinforce the idea that we don't always know the full story. Related to this, something that I've been working on with my son: the idea that two things can be true, which I think underscores so much of our experience as humans but which can be really hard to grasp. Oh and p.s. I'm also enjoying 'The Perfect Couple' - it's so dark and good!
Thank you for your authentic and vulnerable writing, Melinda. This is such a thoughtful post and I'm grateful to you for sharing your research and work to make our worlds better.
Yesterday we got a message from the planning committee for 20 year HS reunions that they wanted to combine the 20th for the 2005-2007 classes to increase attendance. My mom was saying FB/insta have ruined reunions for the casual acquaintances because we all feel like we know each other. But I don’t really know people I haven’t seen in 15-20 years, I know a curated online presence of them. My HS boyfriend and I sounded like we would be a great match based on our values and musical taste but in reality we clashed terribly. I definitely felt like I wrote a story of him in my head that never matched the reality.
I went to my 20th reunion last year, and it was SO FUN. I am not on social media, so not only was it easy for me to strike up conversations (I didn't already know what everyone was up to), but I felt like a celebrity because to everyone else, I was a novelty!
I’m glad you had a great time! I told my twin sister I would like to go but I just don’t know how it will go! I had a lot of fun a couple weeks ago striking up conversations at the Kamala rally so maybe it depends on my mood! I had fun at the 10th but it wasn’t that well attended so I didn’t see that many people.
Yes! I think it's so humbling and powerful at the same time to say "I don't know" in response to tough questions that our kids ask us and to reinforce the idea that we don't always know the full story. Related to this, something that I've been working on with my son: the idea that two things can be true, which I think underscores so much of our experience as humans but which can be really hard to grasp. Oh and p.s. I'm also enjoying 'The Perfect Couple' - it's so dark and good!
Thank you for your authentic and vulnerable writing, Melinda. This is such a thoughtful post and I'm grateful to you for sharing your research and work to make our worlds better.