My husband has resumed traveling over the past year (some work, a couple weekend getaways with friends) and he's encouraging me to take time for myself and go somewhere and ... I can't figure out where to go or what to do or with whom. My best friend has three kids and a husband who travels constantly for work (so on the rare occasions he's home, she'd like to see him). Another of my good friends is dealing with her parents' health crises. Another is too covid-cautious to really go anywhere. I love my mother but we don't travel well together. Etc.
My husband and I are going to go to a wedding without our kid this summer, though. It turns out the wedding is at the end of a week we were already planning a family vacation, so my mother-in-law will fly our kid back from that and then possibly my mother will be waiting here at this end to take over since kid and MIL will have just spent a week together and may be ready for a break from each other.
It can be hard to find people to travel with. What about a weekend escape just for you? I did that last year — I booked myself in an adorable inn with a spa in the countryside, had an amazing dinner and good wine, and then the next day had a massage and took some hikes... maybe there's a place where you could enjoy a particular activity solo? (Also - yay about the kid-free
I have thought about doing something on my own and not known what to do with that, either. Maybe a couple days in New York City. Walk and eat and go to the museum and walk and eat. Maybe be at Death & Co right when they open and get one drink and go on my way.
I love this post. On the cusp of my wife being away for a month, I can definitely relate to the shift in dynamic and getting out of parenting ruts. The notion of camping in the backyard, dining out on school nights, or other activities which may not necessary occur under “status normal” is nice affirmation to sometimes just be more in the moment and to say yes to kids and yourself. Thanks again!
This newsletter came just in time because I am going on a kid free vacation next week and I was just feeling guilty about it!
no guilt!!!!!!
My husband just emailed to remind me that I actually have a 12-year-old, not an 11-year-old. OOPS.
My husband has resumed traveling over the past year (some work, a couple weekend getaways with friends) and he's encouraging me to take time for myself and go somewhere and ... I can't figure out where to go or what to do or with whom. My best friend has three kids and a husband who travels constantly for work (so on the rare occasions he's home, she'd like to see him). Another of my good friends is dealing with her parents' health crises. Another is too covid-cautious to really go anywhere. I love my mother but we don't travel well together. Etc.
My husband and I are going to go to a wedding without our kid this summer, though. It turns out the wedding is at the end of a week we were already planning a family vacation, so my mother-in-law will fly our kid back from that and then possibly my mother will be waiting here at this end to take over since kid and MIL will have just spent a week together and may be ready for a break from each other.
It can be hard to find people to travel with. What about a weekend escape just for you? I did that last year — I booked myself in an adorable inn with a spa in the countryside, had an amazing dinner and good wine, and then the next day had a massage and took some hikes... maybe there's a place where you could enjoy a particular activity solo? (Also - yay about the kid-free
wedding!!!)
I have thought about doing something on my own and not known what to do with that, either. Maybe a couple days in New York City. Walk and eat and go to the museum and walk and eat. Maybe be at Death & Co right when they open and get one drink and go on my way.
that sounds very fun!!!
I love this post. On the cusp of my wife being away for a month, I can definitely relate to the shift in dynamic and getting out of parenting ruts. The notion of camping in the backyard, dining out on school nights, or other activities which may not necessary occur under “status normal” is nice affirmation to sometimes just be more in the moment and to say yes to kids and yourself. Thanks again!
Yay! Have fun and good luck!
You know I am 1000% here for this!