I love the 24 hour scavenger hunt idea! I’ve been talking about people pleasing a lot lately bc we already see these behaviors in my oldest and my niece but my youngest child doesn’t seem to have it at all. And ultimately I think it is better but it’s a different experience with my 5 yo starting kindergarten and not being overly worried about impressing a teacher.
Wow, yeah. My kid is away for a year on school exchange: it's only been a month and I have so much time and energy already freed from not parenting.
However, the calls and meeting requests and panic texts from non-kid-related directions are coming at me fast and furious. I've found myself falling into the "well... I have more time now so I *could*...." trap. This Q&A gave me a kick in the rear. I just said "no, sorry" to one request, and decided to meet a friend for drinks after work instead. Excellent timing.
"I think connection, novelty, and meaning boost our functioning and give us hope, and they are attainable for most people in the course of a week. When people are overwhelmed, they often aren’t experiencing meaningful connection with others or the novelty that gets the front part of their brain cooking. So that can also be a place to start."
I love the 24 hour scavenger hunt idea! I’ve been talking about people pleasing a lot lately bc we already see these behaviors in my oldest and my niece but my youngest child doesn’t seem to have it at all. And ultimately I think it is better but it’s a different experience with my 5 yo starting kindergarten and not being overly worried about impressing a teacher.
Wow, yeah. My kid is away for a year on school exchange: it's only been a month and I have so much time and energy already freed from not parenting.
However, the calls and meeting requests and panic texts from non-kid-related directions are coming at me fast and furious. I've found myself falling into the "well... I have more time now so I *could*...." trap. This Q&A gave me a kick in the rear. I just said "no, sorry" to one request, and decided to meet a friend for drinks after work instead. Excellent timing.
"Can you learn to tolerate the distress that comes with not taking over?"
Such an essential question.
"I think connection, novelty, and meaning boost our functioning and give us hope, and they are attainable for most people in the course of a week. When people are overwhelmed, they often aren’t experiencing meaningful connection with others or the novelty that gets the front part of their brain cooking. So that can also be a place to start."
Such wonderful places to start!
Buying this book pronto!